People want cops to protect them from criminals. They want soldiers to protect them from hostile armies and terrorists. They want to make sure that the disadvantaged to get help. They fear that banks will cheat them, that manufacturers will pollute the environment, that pharma will poison them. People want children to learn. They crave technological and scientific progress. They want people to treat each other well.
In order to reduce the size of the state or eliminate it, we need to find credible alternative approaches that satisfy these desires and aspirations in a way that equals or surpasses what we're getting now. Fortunately for us, there's never been a better time. The Internet has given birth to a number of fads, organizations, communities, etc. that give me some hope that someone can find alternatives.